Tough Skin, Soft Heart


What’s in Your Emotional First Aid Kit?

“If you are silent about your pain, they’ll kill you and say you enjoyed it.”   -Zora Neale Hurston “When something generates a prolonged emotional reaction in you, it’s called a ‘trigger event’.  Your reaction to triggers are shaped by your personal history, which includes your experience with similar situations.”  […]


Are we becoming slave to the spotlight?

Dennis Shiao calls it becoming ‘technological zombies’.  Others call it FOMO [Fear of Missing Out].  Many blame the hyperconnectivity resulting from advances in smartphone technology.  Others contend we are simply experiencing the byproducts of being victims and prey to modern media and technology.  Here’s what I see, and I wonder […]


The Superhero Code

Growing up, I loved the superheroes of 80’s pop culture – Wonder Woman, Thunder Cats, Care Bears, Justice League, Zena: Warrior Princess,  Luke Skywalker/Princess Leia, and the list goes on.  Even now I find myself intrigued by new school superheroes like Luke Cage, Black Panther, and The Avengers.   Have […]


Doin’ it in the Dark

26-year old Lucas Holliday recently went from obscurity to fame.  By day, Lucas worked as a cashier at a Dollar General location in Lansing, MI.  By night, he served as a  lead musician in a local band.  At his cashier job, he made a practice of singing covers of hits […]


I Got U Crew

Every leader needs an ‘I Got U’ Crew.  Being an urban girl, there are many colloquial uses I use [and have heard] for the phrase, ‘I got U’ so let me clarify.  There’s the, “Oh no you didn’t do that to me and think you were going to get away with it… […]


Tears, Fears, and Leadership

LEADERS CRY.  I’m not talking about tears shed from an introspective reflection on the importance of the work you do.  I’m not talking about the ‘watery glisten’ of unshed tears as a result of an unexpected honor, recognition, or random act of kindness.  I’m not referring to tears of joy. […]


Behind the Veil: The Secret Life of the Frantic Leader

Dear Fellow Difference Maker, I see you. I know you. I’ve been you… no, correction: I AM YOU. I know what it is like to hear the alarm clock go off and the opening of your eyes trigger a mental auto-pilot download of your massive to-do list. I’ve felt the […]


For Ladies Only

There is something about us as women. We are the epitome of what it means to be a mover and a shaker. We shake and bake to balance it all — marriage, love, children, homes, extended family demands, work, entrepreneurial endeavors, and village work. We bring home the bacon, find pans, make grease, nurture greatness, breed goodness, restore hearts, and help with hands. We are founders, creators, champions, and strength for many. We are master cheerleaders able to encourage even in the midst of feeling like losers ourselves.